Fat Vs. Skinny – Stop with the Bullying
“Real men love curves, only dogs go for bones”
“Eat a cheeseburger, you don’t need to watch your weight you’re so skinny!”
There is always going to be a battle between skinny people, and fat people; both trying desperately to validate their choices by using lifestyle/genetics/health issues as an excuse for why they are the way they are. The sad part? Adults hold more resentment towards fit/”skinny” people than they do overweight people. and I strongly believe this is part of the reason obesity in Australia is becoming such a huge epidemic.
Yes, in the schoolyard it’s the fatty that cops the brunt of the bullying – being reduced to nicknames like “fatty” and getting told to “put down the fork” every second day. But as we merge slowly into adulthood, the resentment turns to fit/”skinny” people and in order to seek validity and self-assurance, overweight people and people that society dictates as “average”, often turn against the “leaner” community and give them just as nasty insults – anorexic, “nobody likes to cuddle a stick”, “unless you fell on your face on the treadmill, we don’t wanna hear about your workout!” and many other words and phrases that are just as nasty if the roles were to be reversed.
But this is a lot more socially accepted. Every day, I see a new photo being circulated in my facebook newsfeed with some sort of quote referring to overweight/curvy girls as goddesses and skinny girls as some sort of undesirable object. I’m going to be a bit daring here, and say that almost every one of my friends that has shared these sorts of memes are on the heavier side of the weight scale – seeking validity and reassurance that it’s ok they are what they are.
And I think this, ultimately, is what has spawned everything. In our efforts to make the overweight feel better about themselves, we took their biggest envy(or polar opposite, I guess, if the word envy offends you), the “skinny” girls, and demonised them. And everyone thought, just because these girls were skinny, they wouldn’t have any self confidence issues of their own; it was ok for them to be humiliated for being what they are. And so, they became the demon against the saints for a lot of uplifting messages and memes to the overweight.
But not very many people stand up for the skinny girls, or the fit girls, or the curvy girls. Curvy girls get lumped in the overweight category (being curvy is completely different to being overweight), fit girls get lumped into the skinny category and the skinny girls get lumped into the “she is so anorexic, definitely has an eating disorder” category. All because we, as a society, have somehow come up with this ridiculous notion that the only way we can be happy with ourselves, is by believing we are more superior to others.
Why can’t we all just be beautiful in our own rights? Why do we have to say curves over bones, or cheesecake over a carrot? We all choose our lifestyles and we all must suffer/enjoy the consequences for those choices without needing to reaffirm we are happy with who we are. Which we aren’t – because let’s face it, if you are posting these horrible memes or agreeing with them then you are not happy with yourself. Somebody that is happy with themselves doesn’t need to be told they are better than somebody/something else; they don’t care and don’t need that reassurance. Which means something needs to change. Don’t be lazy and simply continue sharing memes that make you feel better but in turn hurt someone else.
This isn’t an entry shaming the overweight community for wanting to feel good about themselves, this is an article about how we resent bullying so much within our community; in our schools; in the media and yet we, the adults, are the biggest culprits for it.
We are our children’s role models. But what example are we setting, constantly bickering amongst ourselves about the way the media favours skinny women, or how curvy girls are allowed to bully skinny girls or how everyone can make fun of the health fanatic? We are our biggest enemy and until we all learn to accept each other and be happy with ourselves, bullying, eating disorders and obesity will always be an issue.