Facebook - The Bitch and Asshole Network
I was looking through my facebook friends today, trying to figure out where I knew everyone from. Some where from primary school, others high school and then there were my online friends not to mention friends of friends who found it prudent to add me, and I found it prudent to accept. About a quarter of the people my face screwed up at and I couldn’t help but ask myself why the fuck I had even accepted these people - many of them were the bullies that had kept me from school at least twice a week.
It got me to thinking why I didn’t just delete them right then and there - why did I keep them on my facebook when I despised them so much? And then I realised; it wasn’t because I was scared they were gonna hunt me down and kill me, it was because I liked them to see my status updates, see my page and realise how damn well off I was in comparison to them. It was like my own personal revenge for all the years that they had spent torturing me and making me feel like shit. And, in true tradition, many of the bitches and assholes were doing no better than working in a McDonalds or Red Rooster, with a big pregnant belly or on the doll. It was like my own personal ego booster for me to go and see their page and see how shit their lives were, and also gave me faith in Karma.
I know it might sound really mean to laugh at the misfortune of others, but when those others were the reason for your social problems and for your low self esteem; it only seems right that you build yourself back up by using their shitty lives as your ego fuel. Right?? Right???
And then I started wondering - who do others keep as their Facebook friends for such occasions like these? I know I can’t be the only one that has certain people on their facebook, or even simply facebook stalks people that were assholes and bitches to see how they are going and then feel smug inside to see they aren’t doing quite as well.
Who do you keep as your Facebook friends even though you aren’t technically friends with them? And why?
The first couple times I deleted people on Facebook, it was tough. I felt sort of bad, because most of the people I deleted hadn’t really done anything, I just never, ever talked to them. When I think about it, though, making such a big deal about deleting Facebook friends is silly.
I mean, it’s just Facebook. After that I didn’t really care. I’ve cleared out probably a hundred people that I didn’t like or didn’t know or didn’t talk to.Now I don’t use Facebook as much, so I don’t really care if I stop talking to people. I mostly just post links and silly status updates, and talk with people privately.
For your situation, I’d say it’s best to let go. I think it would be more beneficial to think, “Hey, I’m doing well for myself and I’m happy about that!” as opposed to “Ha, I’m doing better than those losers!” Because you’re still comparing yourself to other people. I don’t think it’s mean or wrong to laugh at them, but I think it’s less helpful in the long run. ‘Cause you’re awesome on your own, and you don’t need them as a baseline.
